Outside Looking In

Especially around the holidays, society seems more warmhearted and kind.  Suddenly people decide to walk down the street with smiles on their faces because it's December. They open doors, they become attached to the ideas of gratitude and good will. Wouldn't it be lovely if people acted like that year-round?
Prep For A Day

Every holiday has a common foundation:  community.  Togetherness.  That's why no one really enjoys spending Christmas by himself.  Everyone wants to be included, especially around the holidays.  That's why exclusion is such a terrible thing.
If you've ever experienced exclusion, you understand.  If you've ever felt like the odd man out, or if you've been ignored by people you know, you've been excluded.  The saddest fact of all is that you probably didn't do anything to deserve exclusion.  It just happened.  I don't elaborate on this to inspire dislike for the people you know;  I elaborate because I understand what it's like to be left out.
Often, the only advice that can be given to excluded people (especially teens) is to ignore the exclusion;  however, that doesn't always give us any hope.  There isn't any way that we can change the minds of our excluders without confronting them again and again. So what is left for us to do?
If you've ever been excluded, or continue to feel isolated, I'll give you one little fact:  you are not alone.  There are thousands of other people (including yours truly) who feel like they're constantly on the outside looking in.  Besides, the world is an incredibly large place that houses over seven billion people.  Out of that seven billion, there's bound to be at least one who's more inclusive than the ones you know.

Truly, feeling alone is not as terrible as "ending up with people that make you feel all alone."  Because no one is really alone.

How do you deal with exclusion?

Love,

2 comments:

  1. Wow Tori!! This post was beautiful, I love how you tied it in together with the holidays!
    xo, Syd
    www.anchoredinthesouth.com

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